We all need acceptance, love, affection, value and worth. We need approval, significance, affirmation, identity, purpose, security and safety. These are all needs that God has built into us. They are all needs that he himself wants to meet in us. He doesn’t want us to try to meet those needs through the flesh.
We have all been damaged through trying to meet our needs in the world. Our soul has built in it certain needs designed to be met by God. So, our soul needs to be healed, restored, and made whole.
To be rightly related to another person, we first must be rightly related to God, our spirit needs to be quickened or born again, then we need to learn what it means to have a right spirit, keep it built up and maintain a right spirit before God. https://glorytogodministries.site/blog/a-right-spirit-2/
In seeking a relationship with the opposite sex, or if we are married, it is important for that person to be saved, or we will be unequally yoked. https://glorytogodministries.site/blog/pure-love-gives-not-possesses/
In seeking a relationship, we first must totally have all our needs met by God so that we are happy, you can never really be lonely, if our first love is God, we must be a whole spiritual person who can love another person.
There are two kinds of love, God’s love and human love. Human love fails, but God’s love never fails. We must be able to love another person with God’s love, to have a healthy relationship. https://glorytogodministries.site/blog/love-defined/
We do not want to seek first to satisfy our own needs from another person, focus first on satisfying the other person’s needs.
The first thing we must learn how to do is to communicate with our partner. In an unhealthy relationship there is always a lack of proper communication. Instant communication dispels deception. If there is friction in our relationship we need to talk about it right away, we need to be aware of why they are disturbed, but we need to get to the root of the reason, not just dealing with the fruit or it will keep occurring. One of our basic or spiritual needs is being interfered with.
In a relationship you need growth, and learning. You are either growing closer in your relating to one another and growing spiritually, emotionally, and everything else that is involved in relationships. A relationship is either growing or dying
A relationship needs certainty, stability and trust. If you are insecure, you will push the other person away. If you do not trust the person being faithful, you will have problems with jealousy. Not trusting the other person is going to do what they say always causes problems. And they need to trust you.
In a relationship you must feel safe and loved, and your partner must feel significance, being unique, to stand out, to receive recognition, your special, connection, they need to experience value, be desired and accepted, appreciated, respected (your opinions and perspectives are valued and considered, they need to feel important. They need to be held (thought of) in high regard, they need to hear words of appreciation and admiration, if you do not feel respected you will not feel close to that person.
There needs to be variety-doing new things, activities, cooking different foods etc. We need to be excited about things, not being bored.
There needs to be affection. Contribution, giving to contribute to the quality of life in other people.
We need to be sensitive to our partner’s needs, and be able to meet them with God’s help.