Our spirit originated in the heart of God, but when it entered into the body that was being formed in our mother’s womb, our soul was created.
Our soul was created with needs and desires that only God can fulfill. Our body was created with needs and desires, including sex which only God can fulfill.
Because our physical body is directly related to our soul, and the life (soul) of the body is in the blood-Lev 17:11, our sexual desire is two-fold, it is within our soul (mind, will) and in our body (sexual arousal).
God created sex and our sex life can only be fulfilled in the context of marriage.
The Lord had a mate prepared for us before the foundation of the world, before we were born a human being and was part of our destiny.
A healthy relationship is compatibility with our partner spirit, soul and body. She is to have the same kind of spirit, hungering after God. The same kind of soul, liking to do the same things that we like to do, and have a body that we are sexually attracted to.
Unless we have an intimate relationship with the Lord where we hear his voice before we get married, we most likely will miss the will of God and marry someone outside of the perfect will of God.
After I got baptized in the Spirit at the age of 25, the Lord asked me what I wanted in a wife. I used to have encounters with God where we talked back and forth. Being a babe in Christ I was focused on just the physical aspects.
I want a wife with big breasts. How tall the Lord asks, at least 5 foot 4. Does it matter if she has a suntan? No, I said. We’ll I got the perfect woman for you and she is an artist.
We’ll I met her in a couple of days, and she was the woman of my dreams, could have been a model, she was so beautiful. And the Lord told her I was her husband, so I didn’t even have to propose.
Because I was an Alcoholic and had a spirit of rejection upon me, after she found out I was an Alcoholic, I kept asking her if she was still going to marry me and finally, she said no!
This crushed my heart and I had a spirit of suicide on me, and the Lord had to send two angels to intervene lest I kill myself.
I then married a woman in the permissive will of God, who bore me two children. But I was still full of lust, so I was not sexually fulfilled, and I wished I never got married because I had a religious spirit that said you can never get remarried, and you ruined your life.
So, I could not love her with God’s love, because I was self-centered, and she finally divorced me because I kept asking her to.
Because I did not have a walk with God I struggled with alcoholism and lust. At first, I could only get free for a week, then months at a time, then over a year at a time (six times in a row) but I never could get permanently free, because I did not have a walk in the Spirit consistently.
Then I got cancer and they removed my upper ascending colon and food and water go right through me, and the radiation removed the ability for me to have sex. If I took a drink my stomach would hurt worse and I could not even take a couple of drinks without feeling worse in an hour.
So, I got free through the lowest level of submission, the level of complete defeat. So now I have a different set of health problems, and I tend to think the reason is because I would never have fulfilled my destiny unless I got free from sin, because I got healed in the past and I believe in miracles, because I have seen them with my physical eyes.
Some people who get married in the will of God, when they get older their mate is no longer sexually attractive to them and they may fall into pornography.
Millions of male Christian’s struggle with Pornography, because the sexual desire in man is strong, and if they do not learn how to walk in the Spirit, they may never overcome it.
My wife died of breast cancer and now I really miss her, God has put a divine love of God in my heart for her since I have matured in the Lord.
So, if you are married and are not happy, don’t get divorced, God can change your wife’s heart and God can change your heart, he did mine, I probably love my wife more than any other person in the world, even though she is in heaven now.